I Have What???
One Man’s Journey Through Breast Cancer
Richard M. Wiener
Richard Wiener presents an
extraordinary account of his journey with one of the most dreaded diseases
anyone can ever get. Rich, poor, black, white, Asian, Indian, some illness
never discriminate and will strike when the iron or tumor you might say is hot.
Rich is truly remarkable and very proactive when dealing with life and his
health. After losing his wife to this illness he was quick to jump on the
bandwagon to find out just what it was that was lurking beneath the skin of his
left breast. Could it be a cyst or was it a tumor? Rather than contemplate the
answer and sit on his hands thinking it would disappear all by itself he
describes from the very first page how February 12, 2012 would be one day he
would never forget. You might say this day would either save his life or take
it away. Doctor’s visit, surgeon’s visit, opinions states and biopsies taken
and the end result of the verdict: BREAST CANCER! These words would devastate
anyone and the thought that it was cancerous some would feel, but not Rich, it
was a death sentence.
As Rich describes his hospital
stay, the side effects from all the meds and then beginning chemo we hear the
voice of a man who wants to live, will survive and has a positive attitude that
is totally inspirational. Finally, at home and trying to adapt to the drain in
his chest, the limitations it imposed he managed to deal with the pain, the
drain and much more. On March 20th he started his first treatment
and the description although graphic and quite vivid helps anyone that might
have to deal with this illness and the same treatment to understand what it
entails from someone that lived it. Week One was hard and his appetite, some
pain attributed to the chemo and other side affects are described. Week two he
realized that he could now eat and his appetite was improving. Thursday, April
12, would be a landmark day for him. Blood work, hoping all would go well, so
that he could get the next set of treatments and April 19th Week 3.
Feeling good which is great, hoping to eat something and with the help of his
daughter-in-law things went smoothly including the chicken dinners from a
friend and the frozen pizzas from another. Second round, side effects discussed
and keeping a diary of the events for the nurse and for himself. Questions recorded
for the doctor and the nurse, bloods checked again and seeing the oncologist he
learns that his white blood cell count was high normal, which was great to ward
off infections. Questions that he asked dealt with headaches, steroid meds that
also addressed nausea, and how to add these meds to his daily routine and
learning to deal with joint pain and much more.
For those that want to understand
the definition of a Chemo Cocktail, the meds included plus the glorious side
effects just read page 40 and be totally enlightened. One thing he did have was
a healthy supply of Crystal Light lemonade or water with Propel. As the author
states stating hydrated was vital so tons of Jell-O and chicken broth too. Included
before the final week of treatment begins are amazing family photos, which
include his beautiful wife Lynn, his amazing daughter and daughter-in-law and
his son and grandson. For himself and I am sure for them he not only kept it
together but was and still is determined to see it all the way through and
survive.
Throughout the book you hear the
author’s voice as he relates his journey in his own words in the first person.
From the moment he heard to the present you understand the stress, the emotional
upheaval and the fear when you hear that dreaded word Cancer. But, Rich is an
inspiration for everyone and during week five he does explain the exhaustion he
feels, the difficulties he faced walking up the step and the beginning of
another round of treatment. Yet, through it all you never hear him whine,
complain, feel sorry for himself or ever give up.
Lunch with a friend, energy level
low, dinner great and hopefully able to watch some television Rich knew that
only good times he hoped would follow. Okay: you are entitled to some
complaints since they were related to food and your taste buds as he tries to
decide what’s for dinner and it all seemed to taste the same. April gone, May
just ahead and hopefully he would feel like going out.
Week 7 and the journey continued as
Rich and his doctor discuss the BRCA test which he would take after all of the
treatments were over and hopefully would come back negative. Rich continues
with his daily routines, how he feels and the many setbacks he has and the new
found energy he gets to go shopping, the discomfort in his knees and ankles,
and the fact that he headaches are finally gone. Week eight he has a reaction
that is affecting his taste. Imagine how great he felt when he sent to the
health club, worked out and has breakfast. Normal days are not that easy to
come by and he certainly relished the ones he had. Now, I know he was feeling
better as he decided it was time to get a pedicure. Now, you are talking Rich!
But, the elation was short lived. His cleaning girls on the way and he was
hoping to be on the way of the house and to the mall to a movie, dinner with a
friend and then more pills the next day for the last round of chemo.
But, not everything ran smoothly
and he has a setback that causes him to spend some time in the ER and the
hospital. The reasons for his stay you have to learn for yourself and the
problems entailed are explained in Chapter 18 for the reader to understand.
But, the end result was more serious and a stay in ICU. More information, more
pills, more dietary restrictions and you won’t believe where his cell phone
wound up. That you have to read and find out for yourself as sometimes-funny
things happen and in the middle of everything just might make you smile. The
author’s journey is still going on and he will be taking certain drugs for five
years and he is living his life because nothing will get it down and nothing
will take away the precious gift that God gave us all.
So, Rich: plan that celebration of
life party and invite all of your family and friends. You are truly amazing and
this book is one that everyone needs to read. For those men out there that
think it cannot happen to you: think again.
Fran Lewis: reviewer
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